When crap hit the fan, it may have saved my life

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I haven’t written in some time. The last few months have been some of the hardest in years. This recent trial has taught me just exactly how far I’ve come.

Over the last few years, I’ve been on a journey to a different version of myself. It started when I turned my back on the appalling life I’d been living. All I knew for many years was pain, sadness, and misery. I did a slew of insane self-destructive things. I can’t tell you how many times I should have died. How many times I could have gone to prison. …

Some concrete ways to help abstract problems like anger and anxiety

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I read a lot of stories and advice on the internet about growing and strengthening the mind and body. I really love that stuff. I love the challenge and satisfaction of making positive changes, shedding bad habits, and creating good ones to become a better version of myself. I love that so many other people are out there doing the same. If you’re all about a better self than this is for you.

A few years ago I took my life in a complete 180-degree turn and embarked on my own “better self” journey. Considering my current self at that…

Self-defense

“Sometimes you have to be your own white knight.” -Fiona Glenanne

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I worked at this sleazy event venue near downtown for a brief time when I was 22 years old. One night I was walking down the road in club clothing (not much, in other words) having just gotten out of work late after a show. It was a warm humid summer night, and I had already called my ride to pick me up. It was Fanfare week, a big country music festival held every year in June. …

Songs

Here’s the science behind why you can’t stop humming “Stuck In The Middle With You” - and some potential cures!

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Let me first apologize for getting that song stuck in your head. You should know that I was impaled upon that sword as well, now it’s ringin’ away inside my head. It’s always the intro that gets me. I’m going to grab a piece of gum and later on, I will tell you why.

First, let’s discuss the science.

There isn’t a whole lot known about this phenomenon, but I was inspired to figure it out after a particularly catchy bit of song literally kept me from sleeping one night recently. …

I haven’t even been paid for it yet!

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I always knew I wanted to be a writer since I was a kid. I became a parent in high school and wound up an addict on the street at 17 years old. From that point on the focus of my life was entirely about survival, I didn’t have room for anything else. I stopped reading and writing entirely for a long time.

I obsessed over the idea for years. I even started a book, got 23 pages in, then lost the thumb drive. I was still an addict then and had zero discipline and little focus. …

Family

Random tips for surviving a teenager, dating a younger guy, and keeping the peace at home.

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I have an…interesting family dynamic. I am 32 years old, my boyfriend of three years is 24 years old, and my son who lives with us is 16. I’m going to give you a minute to do some mental math on that.

The relationship between my son and me is an unusual one. I had him when I was the age he is right now. I don’t even feel like we are an entire generation apart. I also wasn’t his acting parent for a chunk of his middle childhood, I was a visitor. These factors make the daily parenting grind…

Parenting

Maybe I’m not a horrible parent after all.

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I have never considered myself to be a good parent. Quite the opposite, actually. I birthed my son just after I turned 16, still very much a child myself. I never felt like I was able to properly take care of him. It has been a long road, from there to here. My memories of his life are terrible ones. We lived on the street for a while. There was abuse and drugs and shitty boyfriends. We moved constantly, never able to stay in one place long. …

Instead, teach them how to navigate it so they don’t end up like me.

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I became a mother at the age of fifteen, a recreational user of hard drugs by the end of the following year, and a full-blown meth addict before I was even old enough to buy cigarettes. My sister (two years older than me) had her first child of three from three different fathers not too long after I had my first. At 17 years old she was already an opioid user, who would eventually turn into a hardcore heroin addict. If you’re a parent reading this right now you’re probably horrified. You are right to be.

We didn’t grow up…

Motivation

It’s much simpler than you think.

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“It must be nice to have so much motivation,” my sister snarkily said to me the other day. It got me thinking about the word in general.

I was visiting her for her feedback on my first article. Afterward, we were chatting about our lives and current events. I told her I was starting volunteer work in addition to content writing and also mentioned my plan to tackle over-sleeping.

In retrospect, my onslaught of exciting healthy life-improving plans was probably obnoxious. I like to stay moving and motivated, and I’m always trying to find a way to become a better…

How I went from being a raging alcoholic to a relentlessly motivated and healthy individual.

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If I had a dollar for every time I ended up with a black eye, busted lip, or bleeding knees, and no memory of what happened, I could finally buy a jet ski.

I’ve woken up in jail, in bed next to a stranger, on the side of the road laying in the dewy grass, stark naked on the floor of a bathroom, even in a hospital gown, hunched over in a wheelchair in the waiting room of an ER. I had to ask the receptionist what town we were in and what day it was. I couldn’t keep track…

Sara Sligar

I’m an expert at creating life obstacles to overcome.

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